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Avoiding closeness due to fear of hurt prevents forming intimate bonds. Keeping potential partners at a distance hinders real connection.
Threatening Exit
Repeatedly threatening to leave or storming out during conflicts creates instability and insecurity, harming relationships. Exiting during intense conflict for safety or a break is fine, but habitual leaving without resolving conflicts harms long-term bonds.
Passive-Aggressive Communication
Indirectly showing upset feelings through body language or vague words hinders conflict resolution and understanding. It complicates resolving issues and understanding perspectives as emotions remain unaddressed, leaving the partner to decipher them.
Belittling Partner
Name-calling or superiority creates a judgmental dynamic, undermining care and respect for your partner. It diminishes their worth and fosters contention in the relationship.
Silent Treatment
Cutting off contact or not responding sabotages relationships by hindering conflict resolution and understanding. Stonewalling impedes communication and makes mutual understanding challenging.
Top Reasons for Relationship Sabotage (Peel & Caltabiano, 2021)
- Fear: Fear of rejection, hurt, or commitment.
- Low self-esteem and negative self-image.
- Trust issues with partners.
- Unmet high relationship expectations leading to disappointment.
- Lack of relationship skills or tools for improvement.