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5 Behaviors That Ruin Relationships: Avoid Past Hurts. Self-sabotage harms bonds, causing tension and breakups

Emotionally Unavailable

Avoiding closeness due to fear of hurt prevents forming intimate bonds. Keeping potential partners at a distance hinders real connection.

Threatening Exit

Repeatedly threatening to leave or storming out during conflicts creates instability and insecurity, harming relationships. Exiting during intense conflict for safety or a break is fine, but habitual leaving without resolving conflicts harms long-term bonds.

Passive-Aggressive Communication

Indirectly showing upset feelings through body language or vague words hinders conflict resolution and understanding. It complicates resolving issues and understanding perspectives as emotions remain unaddressed, leaving the partner to decipher them.

Belittling Partner

Name-calling or superiority creates a judgmental dynamic, undermining care and respect for your partner. It diminishes their worth and fosters contention in the relationship.

Silent Treatment

Cutting off contact or not responding sabotages relationships by hindering conflict resolution and understanding. Stonewalling impedes communication and makes mutual understanding challenging.

5 Behaviors That Ruin Relationships: Avoid Past Hurts. Self-sabotage harms bonds, causing tension and breakups

Top Reasons for Relationship Sabotage (Peel & Caltabiano, 2021)

  • Fear: Fear of rejection, hurt, or commitment.
  • Low self-esteem and negative self-image.
  • Trust issues with partners.
  • Unmet high relationship expectations leading to disappointment.
  • Lack of relationship skills or tools for improvement.

Nina Norman is a certified book reviewer and editor with over 10 years of experience in the publishing industry. She has reviewed hundreds of books for reputable magazines and websites, such as The New York Times, The Guardian, and Goodreads. Nina has a master’s degree in comparative literature from Harvard University and a PhD in literary criticism from Oxford University. She is also the author of several acclaimed books on literary theory and analysis, such as The Art of Reading and How to Write a Book Review. Nina lives in London, England with her husband and two children. You can contact her at [email protected] or follow her on Website | Twitter | Facebook

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